Monday, September 3, 2007

My visit HOME!!

I just thought I would share a few things about my recent trip back to St. Louis. I say recent as I am still sitting here in my fathers old office upstairs in the house I grew up in.

First the new comer. One eyed Willie is the cutiest baby ever. I couldn't get enough of him. I was forced to give him up alittle today so that his father could spend time with him before he left back to West Vergina. I was okay with that....kind of. He is very healthy and very calm. He was born 8 pounds and one ounce and is about 21 inches. He has a face like it was modeled after his father which is by no means a bad thing. Like I said HE'S CUTE!! His parents call him frog boy because he likes to stay cureled up like a frog where ever he is. His favorite place to sleep is on my stomach so I don't know what jenny going to do with out me. LOL!! I am sure that they will get along just fine. ( but seriously jenny if you need to call me and I will come out to WV to put him to sleep.) He is adorable I will miss him just as much as anyone else. So you guys better keep the pics coming. To see pics for those that don't know there is a link here to the brights blog on the left. Go see one eyed willie!!

Now my Mother. What a sweet woman. She hasn't lost a step as far as her knowledge ands memories go. Infact she still remembers stuff that I don't. But unfortunetly the cancer has progressed to a point that she really has no motor functions. she has almost lost the complete ability to swallow as well so she is currently being feed three times a day by a tube that has been surgically put in to her stomach. Its good and bad....its good because she dosn't have to taste any of her meds or that gross ensure. Its bad because she can't have some of the stuff she loves ie. beans, salsa, wheat bread, beans, and more salsa. She is able to communicate slitly as the meds where off through out the day. The rest of the time its a mumbled wisper. She is as frustrated with this all as the rest of us as we try to hear her and are unable to get her what she wants. Luckly dad has been blessed with a on had urnum and thumum and has got really good and desifering what she wants just by reading her eyes. Mentaly she is the same old mom that loves us all physically she just doesn't have it. Every morning she would ask to go for a walk or to go to the bathroom forgetting for a moment that she can't do any of that on her own in any shape or form. Dad has been a great support. I don't know of a better fater and husband. He is an inspiration to me of who I want to be. I had a chance to sit down with him and talk one on one, one of the thing he said to me is that he desn't care how long it will be but he will do everything in his power to make Mom as comforatable as possible. I have witnessed this first had. A quick example, this morning mom said that she needed to go to the bathroom dad said just go, because she has her depends on. She said she wanted to use the portable toilet that they have now. so dad lifted her in to the toilet. He left her there for about 30 min and nothing happened. so he put her back on the bed, 15 mins. went by She again requested to use the toilet. dad Repeated the steps previously described again nothing. another 30 mins and she does it again. knowing full well that she will not go and that it is alot of pain for the both of them. WHAT MOM WANTS SHE GETS!! This a testiment to the kind of person that my father is. He knows that our mother could leave us at any time yet he does nothing but look forward to the next 24 hours of serving his wife! He is my idol he is my friend HE IS MY FATHER and I Love Him! Thank You dad for taking care of Mom!

The past few days I have had the opportunity to cry, laugh, love, be loved, and serve. I leave St. Louis with the knowledge that I know that my Heavily Father is watchign over us and that he has a plan for us. I know that Families are together forever and that I will never be seperated from my Mother! I know that miricales are real as I have been given 12 yrs and counting with a mother that was give a year to live. I know that I have a savior that loves me, and I know this becasue I was taught in my youth by the bestest parents and son could have.

This weekend has been great!!



ps. sorry about the spelling.

1 comment:

Steve said...

James, you wrote beautiful words about your sweet Mother. Thank you for your description of the weekend and how profoundly great it was. Your kind words about me, your Mother and the time together moved me to tears. Thanks Son, you're the best